Traumatic experiences such as sexual abuse, affect people so badly that often times they are numb to their own pain. It seems easier to not deal with the trauma. Sadly, this is a big mistake many who have experienced any type of traumatic experience make. It is far more dangerous and unhealthy to ignore that fact that you are hurting on the inside. People are quick to deal with the bruises and wounds that are external, but they neglect to deal with the internal bruises and wounds. The internal affects the external. We want the hurt to magically disappear, but it doesn’t work like that. We have to be practical here. If you have a gash on your arm, wouldn’t you do everything in your power to have it properly treated? You have to realize that your internal bruises and wounds need treatment, too. Your emotional health depends on it. So many people are walking around depressed, suicidal, and dealing with major health issues because they fail to deal with the internal hurt.
We live in a society where emotions are suppressed and a person’s overall well-being is neglected. In order for you to be whole mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, you have to take time out to check in with yourself. Be honest about how you are feeling about whatever you are struggling with. I had to be honest about how I felt concerning being sexually abused as a child and about the men who took advantage of me. I could no longer ignore what was happening inside me. The abuse we suffered may have been physical, but it has an effect on us mentally as well.
Dealing with our emotions can be a gruesome process and tiring, but it’s well needed in order for us to heal properly. If you need help dealing with your emotions, then come to the Restorative Healing Writing Workshop where you can learn strategies to help navigate through your emotions concerning your abuse. You can get more information about the workshop at www.bit.ly/restorativewriting. Self-care is the best care as my coach, Denise J. Hart, would tell me.
Please share your thoughts below in the comment section.