Successful individuals have one common trait: they have a gift for gab. In other words, they are great communicators and know how to convey a message to the listener. It does not take much energy or skill to become a good communicator.
Here are a few tips to use to become an effective communicator:
1. It is good to have eye contact with the other person. Eye contact lets the other person know you are listening and you hear them. When you have good eye contact with the other individual you can respond promptly to the following facial expressions:
2. Show appreciation to what the other person is saying. Your “first words” will dictate the tone and flow of the conversation. One single word can create trust and ease. Each conversation should begin and end with a pleasant word. Pleasant words at the end of the conversation will stay with the listener in his mind. “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24)
3. All conversations should be short and brief. It is better to bring your point across in a sentence or two. This allows the other party to get an understanding of what was just stated to them. For long conversations let the other party know, so that they can mentally prepare for it. “Let your words be few.” (Ecc. 5:2)
When having a long conversation one can do the following:
b. Ignore inner self-talk
Building intimacy and trust in a conversation requires:
1. Build trust. Trust is a privilege and not a right. You must prove to be trustworthy to gain another person’s trust. A good standard for trust is “believe because of the work you have seen me do.”( John 4:11) To build trust requires you to lower your voice and speak slowly. In turn, the listener will respond with trust and openness.
2. Train your brain to listen carefully. Listening can be difficult because we tend to focus on ourselves and our own interests through self-talk. Learn to listen and let the other person finish speaking before responding. Not interrupting the other speaker lets them know you are listening and value what they have to say.
Using these skills in everyday conversations will make you an effective communicator.
Donya Zimmerman is a business consultant, mediator, and legal professional with over ten years of experience. Donya is also a public speaker and aspiring author. She has a few books in the works that will be published and released in the early part of 2016. The books will focus on entrepreneurship, small business, and daily devotionals. She is owner of Family & Community Mediation and Business Consulting (FACMBC) and Powerful Biz Woman (subsidiary of FACMBC). Both are based in Baltimore, Maryland, and were established in 2013 and 2014. Services provided by FACMBC: Mediation and Conflict Resolution Services; Business Registration Assistance (Limited Liability Company, Corporation, S-Corp, Limited Liability Partnership, etc.); Business Plan Drafting Assistance; Business Certification Assistance (MBE, WOSB, 8A, 501(c) (3), Hub Zone, etc.); and Business Organization Assistance. Services and products provided by Powerful Biz Woman are workshops: Entrepreneurship 101; How to Stay Out of Tax Trouble and Legal Trouble in Small Business; Start up 101; and Female Entrepreneurship 101. Powerful Biz Woman provides books on the following topics: Disbarred: How to Use CYA (Cover Your “ASS”et) Letters to protect your “ASS”ets in business; Daily Devotionals for Entrepreneurs/Small Business Owners; Daily Devotionals for Female Entrepreneurs; Small Business Owner Tips; Powerful Biz Tips; and Inner Will Power to Make Your Dreams a Reality. Donya Zimmerman is also a contributing writer with the Maryland Daily Examiner Newspaper, The Leadership Girl Newsletter, Get Our Your Own Damn Way Online Newsletter, Rejoicing Hope Magazine, and Inspirationalist Online Newsletter. Donya Zimmerman has made article contributions to the Simply Inspirational Women in Business Journal for 2014 & 2015 published by Dr. Cheryl Cottle.
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